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Chats

General

The following is a comprehensive, but not exhaustive, list of Transgender/non-binary/intersex chats. For IRC channels, if you have an IRC client installed already, simply click the IRC link to join the chat.

 
Discord
There are quite a few Trans-focused Discord servers. Here are a few:

 
LGBT Reddit
For all LGBT people. Definitely Trans-friendly, and you don’t need to be a Reddit user to chat there. IRC. Channel ##lgbtreddit on irc.freenode.net.
IRC: irc://irc.freenode.net/%23%23lgbtreddit

 
Trans
Trans chat. IRC. Channel ##trans on irc.freenode.net.
IRC: irc://irc.freenode.net/%23%23trans

 
Yay for Queers Chat
For all respectful people. Mostly Trans folk, some cis folks as well. IRC and Java. Channel #yayforqueers on irc.blitzed.org.
Please be patient! Yay for Queers is not a constant bustling hive of activity. If you wait 30 seconds or a minute and then give up, you are unlikely to get any conversation. The longer you stay in the chat, the more likely you are to talk to people. Everyone’s very friendly and supportive and it’s well worth hanging out there.
URL: http://ftmichael.transboys.info/yayforqueers.html
IRC: irc://irc.blitzed.org/yayforqueers

 

Other Special Interest

Recover Your Life
For the support and distraction of people who self-harm. Open to everyone – not Trans-specific or GLBT-specific, but supportive.
URL: http://www.recoveryourlife.com/forum/chat.php

 

Email lists

FTM

Fairfield County CT Transmasculine Society
For people in and around Fairfield County, CT, in the United States.
URL: http://groups.google.com/group/fctransmasculinesociety/

 
FTM International – Discussion
Discussion list.
URL: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/ftm_international_discussion/

 
FTM Italia
Gruppo di discussione riservato a ragazzi transessuali e transgender FtM (da femmina a maschio)e a chiunque, geneticamente femmina, desideri esplorare il lato maschile della propria identità (androginia, travestitismo). Interesessuati maschili benvenuti.
(FTM discussion in Italian.)
URL: http://it.groups.yahoo.com/group/ftmitalia/

 
FTM Madison Group
The MadisonFTM/Genderqueer group is a peer-led, non-professional social/support group for FTMs, genderqueers, transsexual men, drag kings, butches, intersex folks, Trans men, and anyone else assigned female at birth who identifies more masculinely. Significant others, friends, families and allies are also encouraged to attend and participate in meetings. All people are welcome to attend the group regardless of age, gender identity, sexual orientation, socio-economic class, race, ethnicity, religion, ability, and anything else that makes up a person.
(Most meetings will be open to people of all ages. However, due to the nature of some of our topics, there will be occasional meetings when people under the age of 18 will be allowed to participate with parental permission only. Members will be notified in advance if a particular topic is restricted to people under age 18.)
URL: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/madisonftm/

 
FTM-UK
For FTM-identified people in the United Kingdom.
URL: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/ftm-uk/

 
FTMs of MS
For FTM-identified people in Mississippi and surrounding states in the United States.
URL: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/ftms_of_ms/

 
FTM Sonoma County
For FTMs in Sonoma County in California, United States.
URL: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/ftmsonomacounty/

 
FTM Surgery Info
Surgery information for FTM-spectrum folks.
URL: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/ftmsurgeryinfo/

 
M-Spectrum
For people in Arizona, United States, who were declared intersex or female at birth, and no longer feel that is an accurate description. Examples include FTM, MTM, Trans men, pre-op/post-op/non-op Transgender, genderqueer/non-binary folks, and those questioning.
URL: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/mspectrum/

 
Trans Dads
For anyone who identifies on the Transmasculine spectrum and who is a parent or prospective parent.
URL: http://groups.google.com/group/transdads/

 
Transmen Asia
For FTM-spectrum folks and their partners in Asia.
URL: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/transmen_asia/

 
VanGuys
For FTM-spectrum-identified and -questioning folks in Vancouver, BC, Canada.
URL: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/vanguys/

 

Local Groups

 
Alberta Trans Peer Support Network
For those in Alberta, Canada.
URL: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/albertatranspeersupportnetwork/

 
Atlanta FTM
For FTM-spectrum people and their SOFFAs in and around Atlanta, Georgia, United States.
URL: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/atlanta_ftm/

 
BATS (Boston Area Trans Support)
Peer-run support group for college-age and twenty-something Transgender people in the Boston, Massachusetts, area in the United States. It is inclusive of those who identify as Transgender or who are questioning their gender, from MTF to FTM to genderqueer to whatever other gender description you prefer. It is for those who are seeking others of similar age for support in realization of one’s gender identity, help with coming out, transition concerns, and anything else that members wish to bring up. BATS is an LGBTIQ-friendly safe space, with confidentiality respected among members.
URL: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/boston-area-trans-support

 
Boston TG
For Trans folk in the Boston area of Massachusetts, United States.
URL: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/bostontg/

 
Depend-Family
UK based. Open to the friends and family of Transgender and transsexual people – except partners.
URL: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/depend-family/

 
Depend-FTM-Partners
UK based. For partners of FTM-spectrum people.
URL: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/depend-ftm-partners/

 
Depend-MTF-Partners
UK based. For partners of MTF-spectrum people.
URL: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/depend-mtf-partners/

 
Disforia di genere Italiano
For Trans people who speak Italian.
URL: http://it.groups.yahoo.com/group/disforia/

 
Fairfield County CT Transmasculine Society
For people in and around Fairfield County, CT, in the United States.
URL: http://groups.google.com/group/fctransmasculinesociety

 
FTM-UK
For FTM-identified people in the United Kingdom.
URL: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/ftm-uk/

 
FTM Italia
FTM discussione in italiano. (FTM discussion in Italian.)
URL: http://it.groups.yahoo.com/group/ftmitalia/

 
FTM Madison Group
The MadisonFTM/Genderqueer group is a peer-led, non-professional social/support group for FTMs, genderqueers, transsexual men, drag kings, butches, intersex folks, Transmen, and anyone else assigned female at birth who identifies more masculinely. Significant others, friends, families and allies are also encouraged to attend and participate in meetings. All people are welcome to attend the group regardless of age, gender identity, sexual orientation, socio-economic class, race, ethnicity, religion, ability, and anything else that makes up a person.
(Most meetings will be open to people of all ages. However, due to the nature of some of our topics, there will be occasional meetings when people under the age of 18 will be allowed to participate with parental permission only. Members will be notified in advance if a particular topic is restricted to people under age 18.)
URL: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/madisonftm/

 
FTM Sonoma County
For FTMs in Sonoma County in California, United States.
URL: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/ftmsonomacounty/

 
FTMs of MS
For FTM-identified people in Mississippi and surrounding states in the United States.
URL: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/ftms_of_ms/

 
M-Spectrum
For people in Arizona, United States, who were declared intersexed or female at birth, and no longer feel that is an accurate description.
URL: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/mspectrum/

 
Reflections Northeast
For MTF-spectrum folks in New Hampshire, United States.
URL: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/reflectionsnortheastgroup/

 
Trans Parents IA
For Trans and genderqueer parents and prospective parents in Iowa, United States.
Note: “Trans Parents” groups are for Trans people who are or plan to be parents. They are not for cisgender parents of Trans children.
URL: http://groups.google.com/group/transparentsia/

 
Transgender Michigan
For Trans and genderqueer folks in Michigan, United States.
URL: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/transgender_michigan/

 
Trans Men Asia
For FTM-spectrum folks and their partners in Asia.
URL: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/transmen_asia/

 
Transsexual UK
UK-based support. For those questioning their gender identity; Transsexual and Transgender people, out or not, in any stage of transition; friends, partners and family members; professionals and students.
URL: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/transsexual-uk/

 
VanGuys
For FTM-spectrum-identified and -questioning folks in Vancouver, BC, Canada.
URL: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/vanguys/

 

MTF

Reflections Northeast
For MTF-spectrum folks in New Hampshire, United States.
URL: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/reflectionsnortheastgroup/

 

Parents/Family/Children

COLAGE Lists
COLAGE (Children of Lesbians and Gays Everywhere) is very Trans-inclusive and a wonderful resource. (Chapters currently exist in Canada, Sweden, the UK, and the US, and there is information on how to start your own local chapter.)
URL: http://www.colage.org/online-communities/

 
Depend-Family
UK based. Open to the friends and family of transsexual people – except partners.
URL: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/depend-family/

 
Parents of FTM Transsexuals
For parents of FTM-spectrum folks.
URL: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/parentsofftmtranssexuals/

 
TransFamily Parents
One of the TransFamily lists. For parents of Transgender children, including adult children.
URL: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/transkidsfamily/

 
TransFamily Children
One of the TransFamily lists. Offers support, discussions, and news for children (and adult children) of Transgender, transsexual, and intersex individuals.
URL: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/transchildren/

 
TYFA Talk
This group is a support and referral source for parents, grandparents and guardians negotiating the journey of raising gender-nonconforming and Transgender children and youth ages 3-18. Prospective members will be asked to provide their first name, their child’s first name and age, and a phone number where they can be contacted. All posts on this list are moderated for content. We wish to provide a safe, optimal environment for parents to receive the guidance and support that they need to negotiate the journey of raising gender-nonconforming and Transgender children.
URL: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/tyfa_talk/

 

Partners

Depend-FTM-Partners
UK based. For partners of FTM people.
URL: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/depend-ftm-partners/

 
Depend-MTF-Partners
UK based. For partners of MTF people.
URL: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/depend-mtf-partners/

 
TransFamily Couples
One of the TransFamily lists. Open to both cisgender and Trans partners. You can find discussions of a number of different issues.
URL: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/transfamilycouples/

 
TransFamily Spouses
One of the TransFamily lists. Offers support, discussions, and news for spouses and partners of Transgender individuals.
URL: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/transfamilyspouses/

 

Youth

“Youth” should be taken to mean age 25 and under, unless otherwise specified.

Living Color
For GLBT folks and straight allies age 13-25 who are dealing with eating disorders. If someone under 13 wants to join, that can be discussed with the list manager, Grace Jane, at graciejane@youth-guard.org.
To join, see http://youth-guard.org/youth/youthlistsub.asp

 
Youth13-17
For queer youth (not just Trans) 17 years old or younger. Subscription requests from persons younger than 13 will be considered.
To join, see http://youth-guard.org/youth/youthlistsub.asp

 
Youth17-21
For queer youth, not just Trans. In order to become a subscriber of the YOUTH17-21 list, you must be between the ages of 17 and 21. No exceptions will be made.
To join, see http://youth-guard.org/youth/youthlistsub.asp

 
Youth21-25
For queer youth, not just Trans. In order to become a subscriber of the YOUTH21-25 list, you must be between the ages of 21 and 25. No exceptions will be made.
To join, see http://youth-guard.org/youth/youthlistsub.asp

 

Other Special Interest

Children of Lesbians and Gays Everywhere (COLAGE)
COLAGE (Children of Lesbians and Gays Everywhere) is very Trans-inclusive and a wonderful resource. (Chapters currently exist in Canada, Sweden, the UK, and the US, and there is information on how to start your own local chapter.)
URL: http://www.colage.org/online-communities/

 
Disforia di genere Italiano
For Trans people who speak Italian.
URL: http://it.groups.yahoo.com/group/disforia/

 
Elder TG
For Trans and intersex people who are aged 50 and older and their loved ones.
To subscribe, send an email stating your age and interest to eldertg-subscribe@groups.onlinepolicy.net. Questions can be directed to robynw@hawaiiantel.net and/or danmouer@fastmail.fm.
URL: http://forge-forward.org/aging/listservs/

 
FTM Italia
Gruppo di discussione riservato a ragazzi transessuali e transgender FtM (da femmina a maschio)e a chiunque, geneticamente femmina, desideri esplorare il lato maschile della propria identità (androginia, travestitismo). Interesessuati maschili benvenuti.
(FTM discussion in Italian.)
URL: http://it.groups.yahoo.com/group/ftmitalia/

 
GenderQueer Revolution
Have you ever felt …
Like M, F, or even FTM and MTF aren’t enough? Or that your gender changes by the minute, hour, day, or season?
That maybe you were meant to have more than one gender?
Ever feel that your gender isn’t so clear cut? (Or that it falls right off the map?)
Tired of hearing, “You’re just confused,” when you already know who you are, or, you’re comfortable with not knowing? Ever wish they would just stop asking when you’re going to start hormones, have surgery, and “transition,” with the assumption that these terms automatically apply to you? (They might, but that doesn’t give others the right to assume.)
Our stories tell us that genderqueer people need a safe haven, a uniquely genderqueer, gender-defying, gender-gifted, non-binary space. Here, no one will force you to choose a label. No one will oppose weekly, daily, or even hourly changes of name, pronouns, gender identity, gender expression, or style. You can choose to “wear” any gender configuration, revel in confusion, by choice or by circumstance, or not. Here, “genderqueer” does not mean “Trans.” It may, but it doesn’t have to.
URL: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/genderqueerrevolution/

 
LGBT India
For LGBT folks, not just Trans, in India. The country’s primary online networking, activism and discussion forum for lesbian, gay, bisexual and Transgender issues in the sub-continent.
URL: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/lgbt-india/

 
Living Color
For LGBT folks and straight allies age 13-25 who are dealing with eating disorders. If someone under 13 wants to join, that can be discussed with the list manager, Grace Jane, at graciejane@youth-guard.org.
To join, see http://youth-guard.org/youth/youthlistsub.asp

 
POC Transition
For self-identified people of color.
URL: http://groups.google.com/group/poc-transition/

 
TransEpiscopal
Discussion list for Transgender Episcopalians, their friends and allies. It is intended to help us define our needs in the church and to find ways to meet them. Membership is open to all who affirm and support Transgender people and who believe that God’s love is inclusive of us.
URL: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/transepiscopal/

 
Transsistahs-Transbrothas
For Trans-identified people of African descent, living anywhere in the world.
URL: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/transsistahs-transbrothas/

 

Forums

General

Bigender.net
For people who identify as bigender or are questioning whether they might be bigender.
URL: http://bigender.net/

 
Fetlife.com
An adult community for those interested in BDSM. Requires a free membership to participate. There are many community message boards devoted to Transgender discussions, including:

  • Rethinking Trans
  • BDSM Trans-World
  • Fat Queers, Dykes, Lesbians, Femmes, Butches, FTM’s/MTF’s, Gays/Bisexuals — Fat Acceptance
  • Fat Queer and Trans
  • Genderfuckers
  • Gender Blender

URL: http://fetlife.com/

 
LiveJournal
There are many Trans communities on LJ, including but not limited to:

See http://community.livejournal.com/ftm/3333868.html for a comprehensive (but not complete) list of communities.
Must create an account in order to join communities. It’s free and painless.

 
Reddit
There are many many Trans communities on Reddit, including but not limited to:

 
True Selves
For Trans folks who are Generation X or younger (born in 1961 or later).
URL: http://trueselves.com/

 

FTM

 
Fetlife
An adult online community devoted to bdsm. Requires a free membership in order to participate.

  • FTMs
  • FTMs for Femmes Only
  • FTMs for FTMs
  • FTM Gay
  • FTM Personals

URL: http://fetlife.com/

 
LiveJournal
There are many communities on here, including but not limited to:

See http://community.livejournal.com/ftm/3333868.html for a comprehensive (but not complete) list of communities.
Must create an account in order to join communities. It’s free and painless.

 
Reddit
There are many communities on here (see also the listing above, under Forums-General), including but not limited to:

 

Local Groups

Fairfield County CT Transmasculine Society
For people in and around Fairfield County, CT, in the United States.
URL:
http://groups.google.com/group/fctransmasculinesociety

 
Fetlife.com
An adult online community for those interested in BDSM. Multiple local groups exist for Transgender individuals, including:

  • Atlanta, Georgia
  • Australian Transgender
  • Carolina T-Girls
  • Florida Transgender
  • Trans New Jersey
  • LaGarou CampOut OH
  • Trans-Emotion Muncie, IN
  • TransPhilly
  • Portland, Oregon
  • Queenslander Australia
  • Seattle, Washington
  • Toronto, Ontario
  • TG / TS Toronto Munch
  • Transgender of Ontario
  • Texas Transgender
  • UK

URL: http://fetlife.com/

 
LiveJournal
There are many communities on here, including but not limited to:

See http://community.livejournal.com/ftm/3333868.html for a comprehensive (but not complete) list of communities.
Must create an account in order to join communities. It’s free and painless.

 
TransVanilla Transgender Association
Magyar helyszínen transznemű emberek, bármilyen típusú és barátaik, családjuk, és a partnerek és a glb emberek is. Főbb információs oldal magyar Trans emberek.
(Hungarian site for Transgender people of any sort and their friends, families, and partners and also for glb people too. Main informational site for Hungarian Trans people.)
URL: http://transvanilla.hu

 

MTF

LiveJournal
There are many communities on here, including but not limited to:

See http://community.livejournal.com/ftm/3333868.html for a comprehensive (but not complete) list of communities.
Must create an account in order to join communities. It’s free and painless.

 

Parents

 

Partners

Fetlife
An adult online community forum which consists of members of the BDSM Community. Many groups are related to both transgender people as well as partners. Requires a free membership to fetlife.com to participate. Trans-relevant groups include:

  • SOFFA Support
  • Partners of FTM
  • Partners and Friends of FTM
  • Trans Relationships

URL: http://fetlife.com/

 

Youth

“Youth” should be taken to mean age 25 and under, unless otherwise specified.

TrevorSpace
Social networking site for LGBTQ+ and questioning youth ages 13 through 24, and their friends and allies.
URL: https://www.trevorspace.org/

 
Trevor Support Center
A place where LGBTQ+ youth and their allies can find answers to frequently asked questions, and explore resources related to sexual orientation, gender identity, and more.
URL: http://www.thetrevorproject.org/pages/support-center

 

Other Special Interest

LiveJournal
There are many communities on here, including but not limited to:

See http://community.livejournal.com/ftm/3333868.html for a comprehensive (but not complete) list of communities.
Must create an account in order to join communities. It’s free and painless.

 
OutServe
Association of actively serving LGBT American military personnel.
URL: http://www.outserve-sldn.org/

 
Transgender American Veterans’ Association (TAVA)
Association of Trans-identified veterans and actively serving American military personnel
URL: http://tavausa.org/

 

Social Networks

General

Facebook
There are many Trans groups and pages on Facebook, including but not limited to:

 
TransQueer Nation
For anyone who fits under the Transgender umbrella, whether you identify as Transgender, transsexual, crossdresser, genderqueer, etc. Cisgender queer people and SOFFAs are also welcome. Although this is a general social network there are quite a few FTM on this social network if you are looking for a positive, safe place for FTM support.
URL: http://transqueernation.com/

 
We Happy Trans
A place for sharing positive Trans* perspectives.
URL: http://wehappytrans.com/

 

FTM

Facebook
There are many FTM groups on Facebook, including but not limited to:

 

Local groups

Facebook
There are many local Trans groups and pages on Facebook, including but not limited to:

 
Proud2Serve.net
URL: http://proud2serve.net/
The LGBT e-network for the British Armed Forces.

 
Sampoorna
A network of Transgender, transsexual, intersex, and gender non-conforming Indians across the globe.
URL: http://sampoornawg.wix.com/sampoorna

 
Twitter
There are many local Trans organizations on Twitter, including but not limited to:
Massachusetts Transgender Political Coalition
Trans Equality Network Ireland

 

Parents/Family/Children

 
Facebook
There are many groups and pages on Facebook for parents and loved ones of Trans people, including but not limited to:

 

SOFFA

Partners of FTMs
Google+ group for people whose partners are FTM or Trans men.
URL: http://plus.google.com/u/0/communities/106356626383757261193

 

Youth

Facebook
There are many groups and pages for Trans youth on Facebook, including but not limited to:

See also